Thursday, September 30, 2010
Living in the moment... I have come to learn something recently that has allowed me to truly have a new appreciation to enjoying life. We seem to all love to look forward to special occasions...holidays...birthdays...weddings and vacations, giving us something to work harder for, or have something on our calendars we cant wait for. These moments in our lives are important and special, but what I have come to learn is that time flies by so much faster when we rush away our lives.
With all the travel I do, I used to look forward to it all being over. I would have anxiety just knowing I had another trip to take and another job to do. For me, it was another moment I would not be home and it would overwhelm me so much that I would forget to live in this state of being called, "the moment". Recently
I had a grueling travel schedule that I wasn't looking forward to at all. Six cities in six days placing me on six planes. It's exhausting just to write and reread. I then learned an important lesson that I will never forget. Life is extremely precious and so very special, that we must learn to appreciate the moment we are in, regardless of the situation. Happiness is not derived from what you are doing, where you are going, or who you are with, but it is a state of mind, that only you can have inside of you and your heart. Grasping the moment each day is what it is all about, and I have learned to embrace each moment, each day, and now find time for the simple things in life, no matter where I am.It could be the sunshine that begins our day, the phone call from a loved one that brightens up our mood, or just a walk alone in the park. A stranger that we randomly meet, we can somehow laugh with and learn something new about them. Our lives are all so complicated, busy, and so stressful but trust me; if each of us can find the power to be in control of living in the moment and find those things that make us happy, our lives will suddenly become rich and colorful, and not simply pass by. Live in the moment and it will allow you to live in your life!
Friday, September 10, 2010
When you know someone is about to celebrate a milestone birthday what do you do? I know for me I love to celebrate life in general and when MY birthday rolls around I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE being with my family and special friends. For my 40th …WOW… Did I celebrate my birthday? That’s for another time to share... Well, my Mom is about to turn 70 and we threw her a surprise 60th Birthday that was special for her, for us, and for her friends. So I asked my Mom what she would like to do for her 70th and she immediately responded saying she didn’t want to have a big party! She is looking forward to having a special weekend with her three girlfriends who are all turning 70 this year. These three women have grown up together from kindergarten. It’s amazing! They have been in each others weddings, godmothers to each others children and see each other all the time; the bond they share is incredible! But what do I do for my Mom’s Birthday? Do I have a big birthday party for her? Do I take my Mom somewhere special? I have been thinking non stop of what to do and ask myself, do I listen to the honoree when they tell you they don’t want a birthday party? So I am in a dilemma for sure. I need to figure out how to not make her day go unnoticed and how to make her feel very special. She is off this week to NYC to have a full beauty make over with her girlfriend Molly. I wanted my Mom to feel like a queen for a day. A friend of mine, Eve Pearl, is going to take care of these two ladies in style. Eve is a five time Emmy Award winning make up artist to the celebrities, and she is going to make my mom feel like a celebrity too. This is my gift to my Mom for this past Mother’s Day. So you see, I like to make celebrations in life big and special. As I write this I know I need to do something truly special for this big Birthday. I have to get thinking and fast because it is a few months away. I feel we all have to find the time to make our loved ones feel important and never let moments in life go unnoticed, which is why we all need to…
Celebrate life in style,
I just returned from one of my favorite places….Santa Fe, New Mexico. Ryan and I have been to this serene place several times and each time we come back we always leave feeling rejuvenated, relaxed and spiritually connected to not only to ourselves and each other, but to life in general. Santa Fe is a quaint town about one hour north of Albuquerque and as soon as you arrive you feel the positive energy that Santa Fe has to offer. I have been to Santa Fe with Ryan many times. We went for a summer years ago, we traveled for my big birthday where we took a hot air balloon ride down the Rio Grande as well as many other trips. Each time we simply love to walk, meet people, have great food, and see amazing art. The sunsets are by far some of the most beautiful paintings of color I have seen in the sky. The stars in the evening will take your breath away.
I was speaking to a local resident this last visit and I was sharing with him my love affair that we have for this special place. He said to me…Santa Fe is like Tofu, it becomes the flavor you want it to be. Santa Fe is just the same… you make your experience in Santa Fe what you want it to be. I found this saying so profound. Isn’t this what we are supposed to do with our lives every day? We are in control of what we want to experience, we are the ones that can flavor of own lives each day and we are the ones that can truly allow ourselves to enjoy life. I have to be honest I don’t like Tofu at all but I can respect the reference that he made. So here is to all of us sprinkling some spice, some sugar, or some herbs to our daily life so we can enjoy the flavors we all so want to experience.
Celebrate your life in style,
I had drinks last night with one of my brides from my show and it was really fantastic. I do stay in touch with my brides via emails and texts, but it’s been hard due to my schedule to connect one on one in person. I had the chance to see Nicole (Poker Bride) from season three. We laughed and talked for quite a while. I connected to Nicole the moment I walked through her door filming my show. Seeing her for drinks in NYC for the first time since the wedding reminded me why I adored her so much. I sat back and listened to all that is happening in her life. I had presented to Nicole the night of her wedding a fantastic honeymoon to Las Vegas at the Wynn Resort. I couldn't wait to ask all the questions and hear all about the experience they had together in Vegas. I sat there like a little kid as she told her story. I listened to every word, each description as she painted the picture of her time in Las Vegas. From the limo that picked her up to the suite she stayed in at the Encore at Wynn, to the wonderful show Le Reve, and the dinner they had together. This was a first for me.....I get to see what the wedding does for my Bride and Groom and their guests at the wedding...but after the cameras are down, I don't get to hear about the wedding memory in perspective of my girls, and what these experiences mean to them. For Nicole she met her Dad, she went on a once in a lifetime trip, and she had the time of her life that she says she will never forget. Nicole also said she cried tears of joy for two weeks after the wedding was over because she couldn't believe it all happened to her.
How lucky am I? Very lucky, because I get to meet these wonderful girls and not just give them dream weddings but give them life experiences that touch them forever. I am lucky because they change my life forever. Nicole was Lucky in Love and I am Lucky in Life!
Thursday, September 9, 2010
My very own blog on my very own web site....it’s exciting! Believe it or not the little things in life still get me excited, including this blog. My team has been so busy working hard on the redesign of my web site and an important element to include for me in the new site was my blog. I want this blog to be more personal to my readers and for me. I thought the David Tutera Blog could be more of a look into my life, my thoughts and my experiences. I spend so much time traveling and I have the opportunity to meet so many wonderful people. Relationships are so important to me that I cherish each one I make. A friend of mine taught me years ago that people come into our lives either for a season, a reason or a lifetime. This is so true...but what is more important is that we need to keep ourselves always open to new experiences which, in turn, will allow us to develop new relationships to learn from.
Every bride, every vendor, each new friend I meet enters my life to teach me something. If we are open to these life experiences, we will always continue to grow as people. I hope my new blog will allow for me to share my life's experiences and help me grow by sharing them with you and allow for all of my readers to learn a little something new about me. I have a saying on my computers both at home and at work that says....Life is a gift!
May each day be filled with gifts we can open and share with each other. So here is to my first blog on my web site and here is to...celebrating life in style!